The January Self-Sabotage Ritual

So many of us have made New Year's resolutions. Left-brained folks, you've likely created 2023 goals and specific actionable tasks! 

But now it's the second week of January, and doubts start creeping in. Can I really do this? Are my goals reasonable? We all have dreams. Every one of us. So why do so few of our dreams ever reach reality? Because of all that negative self-talk in your mind! 

The problem comes when we get in our own way, or when we become crippled with fear of failure, and thoughts of we can never be enough. This is the world of self-doubt, and it's a tough place to escape.

It's time to stop doubting yourself and take back your life! Don't let self-doubt take over your dreams. Instead, try these simple tips to get your life back on track.

5 Ways to Keep Self-Doubt from Taking Over Your Dreams 

Take a Trip Down Memory Lane

Ready to revisit history? Chances are you've had self-doubts before. But have any of those adverse outcomes ever come true? If so, were the consequences as bad as you'd thought they would be? Now think about the times that things went right. Remind yourself they likely will work out again this time too.

Keep a Journal 

Ideally, a journal becomes a record of everything you've gone through. Write about the problems you're having. Write about how you solve those problems. Include everything. Then go back and read your journal sometimes for a reminder of what you've already gone through. Use this book for ideas on how to tackle the problems of today.

Remember it's Not About You

If self-doubt is fueled by a caustic remark from someone else, or in how someone treats you, take a step back from the emotional backlash. Before you get all fired up, remind yourself this is very likely more about the other person than you. You don't know what kind of day they're having or what they're going through. Take what they say with a grain of salt and move on. There's absolutely no reason to start doubting yourself just because of what someone else happened to say.

Readjust Expectations

Do you doubt yourself because you feel like you're on the wrong track? Here's where you need to take a step back and re-evaluate the situation. There's nothing wrong with making adjustments to the plan. Dreams don't just happen from the initial blueprint. Sometimes you need to tweak things a little, especially if information or situations change. Rather than get hung up when this happens, look for ways to readjust the plan. You'll be back on track in no time.

Celebrate Wins

Self-doubt hates success. This is why it's so important to get in the habit of celebrating when things go right. It doesn't matter if the progress is small, make a point to enjoy the milestone all the same. After all, you and your dreams deserve it!

Help is Here if You Need Support

5 Keys to Thriving in 2023 Webinar

Let's celebrate what you've done well this month, and support one another! I am offering a free webinar six times in the month of January-LIVE! I will identify the five keys to thriving in 2023, and we will encourage each other to keep going strong in 2023! Here is a link to register: 5 Keys to Thriving in 2023 Webinar

2023 Life Blueprint Workshop

If you are having a hard time creating realistic goals for 2023 and doable actions, let's spend a day together online and work them out. This Done-WIth-You Women's Workshop will be with a small group, supportive, and you will leave with your own blueprint for success! Here is the link to register: 2023 Life Blueprint Workshop

Phoenix RIsing Coaching Program

I'm so excited to launch this new program! Phoenix Rising is a six-month group life coaching program focusing on uncovering and discovering who you are, what you want from life, goal formation, action plan, accountability and feedback. If you are ready to take your life to the next level, I'm here to help you improve your health, finances, career, intellectual life, spirituality, relationships, and more! Here is the link to apply: Coaching Application

No matter if you need a cheerleader, chief encourager, or coach, my 2023 goal is to help you reach the New Year resolutions, personal goals, and/or sexy life you are ready to make a reality in 2023! 

Dr. Toni